Sobriety in AA

Recently I came across a well-meaning blog post from someone who wishes to explain AA to readers who feel they may have a problem with alcohol. As a sober member of AA for the past 8 years, I feel compelled to write about my experience, as there was some misinformation on this particular blog, and I almost posted a comment, until I realized I’d need to include my name and email address. My email address has my full name in it, and I wish to remain anonymous in this blog (partly because of my AA membership, but mostly due to the personal nature of what I write), so I didn’t post a comment. Instead I’m posting my own blog with my experience (even though I have less than 200 readers and about 10 views per day on any given day, which kinda bums me out tbh, but that’s for another day… and even if I help only one person, then I’ll have done my job).

Here’s what I can tell you about AA: the best way to find out what it’s like is to go to meetings. I recommend trying more than just one meeting, because from my experience, some of the meetings I went to, especially when I was new, were just weird. I’ve always preferred women’s meetings where I feel most comfortable talking, but you have to decide what’s most comfortable for you.

No one could’ve told me what AA was like any more than anyone can explain to me what it’s like to ride a bicycle. You can explain it to me, but I don’t know until I do it myself.

I also don’t think AA is the end-all be-all. It’s not the solution for everyone, and there are problems with it, as with anything. Nothing is perfect. But it has changed my life for the better, that’s for sure. Whatever you do, it’s my opinion that what works best is finding another solution for life’s problems, along with having friends who are on a similar path of living a positive way of life.

That’s all I really have to say about that. I want to write more, as I’ve been in a funk lately, but I need to get ready for work. This funk I’ve been in is due to my anxiety about my professional future as well as the whole dating thing. Dating takes a lot of work, and online dating makes it almost impossible to really know what a person is like. I’d rather not date someone from AA because I go to meetings for support, and plus there are all kinds of problems with dating in AA that I can write about later. There are positives too, though. So… with that being said, more later.

To be continued. 🙂

Peace, love, hugs, etc.

TCH

7 thoughts on “Sobriety in AA

  1. I have only just recently started reading your blog. I’m finding it interesting. You are open and understanding and I am jealous that you have the guts to write this stuff. I am not an alcoholic but am the child of one and did attend Al-Anon as a child/teen. Found it to be helpful, but as my father did not participate in any program and continued to drink, it all kind of fizzed out and the family eventually broke apart. I remember going to the meetings and feeling like I was no longer alone as a kid living in this kind of environment and started to understand some of the feelings I was having. That was 40 years ago. Thank goodness my life has evolved to longer include alcohol in any of my close relationships. However, I am starting to realize that even though the alcohol is gone – the feelings still exist in reaction to other life stresses. Or maybe that’s just a part of menopause? Anxiety? Depression? Failure? Oh well – just wanted to thank you for being so open about your issues. I admire you and wish you well.

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    1. Wow, Charlene, thank you so much for your comment. Alcoholism is a family disease, as you know, and even without the alcohol the feelings, actions and attitudes are still there as long as the family doesn’t get some kind of help for it. I have a lot of alcoholism from both sides of my family, and although I didn’t see the drinking from my parents that much growing up (my mom didn’t drink, my dad did but they were divorced), my mom’s mom and dad’s dad were alcoholic. The outlook and attitudes toward life get passed down, and generally those of us who dealt with life’s problems by drinking to escape didn’t have such positive attitudes. But this is all stuff you already know. I’ve found some help from ACA and Codependents Anonymous as well. No need to feel jealous – there’s space for you to write your feelings and experiences too. I’ve been writing since childhood as a therapeutic outlet. And I’m not that courageous because I don’t put my name on it. Hugs to you!

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  2. I couldn’t agree more. I think it’s great that people are sharing about the experience (responsibly, that is). But I think if you’re going to write about it, then yes, you need to first and foremost, make it clear that the best way to learn about a meeting is to attend one, because odds are, if you’re reading a blog about it, you or someone you love probably need to go to a meeting on some level or another. And as you and I both know, no two meetings are ever the same lol. Good luck in your journey!

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    1. Thank you for your comment, Alicia! Good point! If you’re reading about it, you or someone you love might have a drinking problem and I’ve found AA to be a wonderful solution for that.

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  3. Hi there! Have just discovered your blog and will be sure to stop by again. It’s really interesting for me to read about others’ experience of AA as I am really torn on it. I’m making it sound like a problem and really negative – it really isn’t! – but I’ve just not “got it” yet. I quit drinking in January and it’s been wonderful. I have yet to figure out if AA is a help for me and would love to read more of your thoughts around it! All the best, Sophie x

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    1. The best way to know if AA is for you is to go to meetings, but there’s nothing wrong with investigating other avenues for sobriety too. Good luck to you and congrats on 2-3 months! It’s an amazing journey.

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